Saying the right thing

“Honesty is an expensive gift, don’t expect if from cheap people.”

Everyone wants to say the right thing.

What I have noticed going through my life is that sometimes the right thing to say is not actually the right thing. It is actually just saying what the other person wants to hear. It isn’t honest. It isn’t genuine. It isn’t authentic. It’s just right.

I have talked about it before, but right and wrong are completely relative. What is right to you may be wrong to be and likewise.

CAN YOU ACTUALLY SAY THE RIGHT THING?

What I believe is that you can say the thing that needed to be said in any given moment.

In some of my relationships, me saying the right thing came back and bit me later down the road. Rather than approaching a problem head on, I decided to say what I thought that person wanted to hear. I have learned that in this situation it is always better to say what you need to say.

YOU DON’T FORM STRONG RELATIONSHIPS BY SUGARCOATING.

It’s not always gonna be sweet.

You can’t expect everything to be all good all the time.

So instead of thinking it is bad if it’s not going well, embrace it. Realize that the good is a thing because of the bad. That is what relativity is.

THE GOOD THINGS ARE GOOD THINGS BECAUSE BAD THINGS EXIST.

Without the bad, you would have no idea what good is. Good wouldn’t be good anymore, it’d just be reality.

I woke up this morning without extreme pain in my throat for the first time in 3 days. I feel amazing even though I am still sick. There is still pain. I am still weak. I am still bound to my bed. But, in comparison to how I used to feel, this is amazing.

It’s all comparison.

Saying the right thing shouldn’t be the what they want to hear. It should be the what they need to hear.

Being honest and real with a person will gain you so much more respect with them than saying what you think they wanna hear. Anyway, you have no idea what they want to hear. You only have a personal perception of what you think they want to hear. You don’t see what goes on in their mind.

The more you decide to base what you say on what you think others want, the higher the chances are your relationships are surface level.

I have been able to form some of the best relationships with people by being completely genuine, vulnerable, and honest with both them and myself. Unless you truly show someone what you are thinking and how you feel, you won’t ever discover the best parts of human connection.

I crave emotional connection, but I was cut off for so long. I was not honest with myself, and I only told others what they wanted to hear. I was unfulfilled because I hadn’t felt this emotional connection since high school. Back when I felt like I could be honest with someone because I didn’t know any better. Then something happens that makes you second guess yourself and it all changes.

I lost myself for quite some time. I lost my ability to form emotional connections with anyone. And for that reason, I was lost.

Once I found the ability to just say how I felt, life got so much.

Quit saying the right thing.

Say what’s on your mind.

That is the right thing.

People want to hear what they need to hear, even if they don’t think they do.

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My goal is to inspire self-improvement in others through my personal stories and experiences.

This is The Exploration.